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when ur asexual friend gives you good advice

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I’m so happy this exists

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AHHHHH thank you so much Manda!! I just saw this and it’s all I ever wanted in life tbh ;^;

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Anonymous asked: Is it seriously so evil to headcanon Pearl as pansexual?? Like geez, I even ship pearlmethyst, but as soon as I make a pan pearl post I get people calling me a lesbophobe. Do y'all seriously think that's okay?

cosmictiddies:

That is lesbian erasure. You are taking Pearl’s identity away which is very important for lesbians. Why is it so bad to just accept that Pearl is a lesbian? She is the only confirmed one in the show. Why do you think it’s okay to take that away?

And a headcanon is a theory or idea that fits in with the canon narrative without changing anything so you cannot “headcanon” Pearl as anything other than a lesbian because it goes against what we know in canon. She has not shown any attraction or even positive interaction with any gender other than female-coded characters.

TL;DR : Pan!Pearl headcanons are not lesbian erasure as it doesn’t erase Pearl’s canonical attraction to another female-coded character. The only canonical fact is that Pearl has had attraction to another female-coded character. This could canonically support both a lesbian and pansexual Pearl, depending on how you read or interpret canon. Which is what “headcanons” are all about, right?

I’ve never gotten involved in fandom arguments about headcanons, I don’t think. But my friend, @alorabora, raised some good points on whether pan!Pearl headcanons are lesbian erasure and I thought I’d throw in my two cents. (idk what I headcanon Pearl as, just fyi)

Feel free to respond, respectfully, with your own thoughts!

TL;DR : Pan!Pearl headcanons are not lesbian erasure as it doesn’t erase Pearl’s canonical attraction to another female-coded character. Note: female-coded doesn’t necessarily indicate female identity, especially for aliens with no gender binary in their society.

@lavabendinggemqueen​ uses a circular argument to claim that an ‘explicitly’ identified lesbian!Pearl’s identity is being erased. Which, if Pearl were explicitly identified as lesbian, could be considered lesbian erasure.

However, the only canonical fact is that Pearl has had attraction to another female-coded character. Generalizing, you could say “Pearl has experienced homoromantic/homosexual attraction.” This could canonically support both a lesbian and pansexual Pearl, depending on how you read or interpret canon. Which is what “headcanons” are all about, right?

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series of sketches, whono-scribble (11/09/2015)

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So I was in a drawing mood and wasn’t happy with any of my deliberate sketches ^^; so I did these four quick sketches and was pretty happy with how they turned out! :) Hope you guys are having a great day <3

ps: please be respectful of people’s art, don’t remove the caption above “—-”

Now that halloween is over, I’ve changed my icon back to the old birb :>

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gallicinvasion:

Another woman utterly failed by our society’s devaluation of women’s reproductive health. We can’t wait around for male doctors to decide what we need to know. This is why we need to take control and educate ourselves about our own bodies.

and here’s some comments i saw under the post. why is this a pattern?? why is this a recurring theme?? why is this information not common knowledge? what the fuck are doctors doing??

This is news to me so let’s share it so people will know!

Gross tmi: but i passed a pretty big clot after having my daughter. It was about the size of a baseball. It actually hurt worse because while 15 hours of labor opened my cervix, i passed the clot in 30 minutes. I knew it was a possibility because of my midwife and reading, but everyone Ive told after this (mostly other pregnant women) were shocked that this could happen.

In our culture, it’s much more common to do deep research about what family cars we want to buy than we do about childbirth when we ’re pregnant.

Tmi: I passed a huge clot after birth in the bathroom of my hospital room and called the nurse sobbing because I didn’t know it was normal. She treated me like an idiot, but NO ONE told me it was a possibility. And the pain associated with healing for the first couple of weeks after birth was worse than the labor imo. Again, I had no idea. They didn’t tell me a thing besides “sitz bath regularly and change your pads.” Before discharging me from the hospital.

I was most definitely told about this in school. Fucking hell, 4-6 weeks of bleeding? My periods were/are bad enough, why the hell don’t we get told this?

I didn’t know it could last so long, wtf? Is the bleeding inevitable after birth? 

Bleeding is inevitable after birth - your uterine wall is shedding a fuck ton of lining. It can last from three to six weeks (possible longer) and it tapers off.

More TMI - I passed a MASSIVE clot after my fourth birth. At this point I already knew this could happen - it’s normal. What I DIDN’T know, was that I had caused it.

My post birth contractions were so bad after the birth that it felt like full transition labor. And they don’t give you anything for the pain. So I used a hot water bottle, without the nurses knowing, and it caused me to bleed even more. I lost so much blood that by the first time they sat me up to go to the bathroom, I fainted. It took three more tries until I could sit up.

Anyway, that’s not the point. The point is, the next morning I passed a clot the SIZE OF ANOTHER PLACENTA I KID YOU NOT, and I know what is and is not normal. So I called for the nurse and through the door told her I had passed a huge clot, and her response was - “It’s not big. I know what big is.” She hadn’t even looked. So I rolled my eyes and said, “Yeah, no. It’s big, I’m telling you.”

So, sounding extremely put upon, she asked me to open the door. I did, and after a long pause she goes, “Okay, yeah, that’s a little big.”

YOU DON’T SAY.

The point I’m trying to get across is that this shit is so common - women not knowing this stuff is so expected, and it keeps getting reinforced. People don’t expect you to know anything, don’t teach you anything, and then make you feel like you’re totally ignorant and a burden for your lack of knowledge when THEY WON’T SHARE.

Fucking learn EVERYTHING you can when it comes to childbirth, girls. It is the single most empowering thing you can do for yourself. And if you missed something, that’s okay. But the more knowledge you arm yourself with, the more in control of your situation you’ll be.

A few post partum tips:

• DON’T use a hot water bottle - lol.
  
• ONLY pads - NO tampons. Tampons can cause severe infection, not to mention, you probably don’t want to be shoving anything up there any time soon.
  
• If you’ve had stitches, sitz baths DO help relieve the pain. Another great pain reliever? Dampen some pads and freeze them. Let one thaw slightly and use it on top of another pad. This will help with the pain as well as reduce swelling. Change the pad out as soon as it’s thawed completely. This REALLY helps on the first couple days after giving birth.
  
• If you pass a clot, don’t sweat it. Even the one I passed, which was fucking massive, just required that we keep an eye out to make sure it didn’t happen again. If it does, talk to your doctor.
  
• Take a pain killer half an hour before nursing. Because YES - your uterus is contracting after you give birth, to get back to its original size, and nursing causes much stronger contractions. Taking nursing-safe painkillers won’t prevent the pain, but it will reduce it. 
  
• Buy disposable underwear for the first few days after birth. They will get VERY dirty. Or use your ratty old pairs that you’re ready to get rid of. Double up on pads - line them all the way up your ass-crack. I am so serious. And wear dark pants.
  
• Pee in the shower. You do NOT want to wipe down there right after birth because ow. Peeing in the shower lets you just rinse afterwards. Especially if you’ve had stitches, peeing in the shower, with the shower-head rinsing AS you go, keeps stinging to a minimum. And fuck everyone else - keep on peeing in the shower until you feel ready to move back to toilet paper. Middle of the night and need to pee? Get your pants off - get in the shower and just go.
  

This is just a few things, but PLEASE feel free to send me an ask if you have any questions about ANYTHING childbirth/pregnancy/nursing related. I have four incredible kids. I’ve done it all - c-section, vacuume birth, episiotimy, stitches, with an epidural, without an epidural. I’m here.

I learned about cramping while nursing and bleeding after pregnancy, not from a medical textbook, or a doctor or medical professional.

No, I learned about it from reading Clan Of the Cave Bear. A fictional book about Neanderthals had more valuable advice regarding pregnancy thank any other book I have read, at least while I was a kid.

Also a tip: if you lack the spoons (energy) for a shower, my midwife gave me a tip: take a jug of lukewarm water with you to the bathroom. You can rinse while you pee (it reduces the stinging) as well as afterwards.

Totally open to questions from anyone who needs advice and support! Nobody knows about this shit and it can be so traumatic for new mums who find out as it’s actually happening.

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